Husband according to the Lord
What are the basic biblical guidelines for husbands? A husband’s primary responsibility is to love his wife. It’s in the Bible,
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Love your wives means that you will are gentle to them, tenderhearted and always forgiving and understanding in ALL situations. When you love her, you will always see to it that she is in good condition, Wether physically or emotional.
The portrait of Love is in
1 Corinthians 13 : 4-7
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
So when your wife burned that food, be thankful she can cook and maybe remind her that next time it will be better. Encourage your wives and do not neglect them when they fix themselves for you. But also, take care of your wives that they will learn to dress modestly. Many wives think that for a man to recognised them is to dress so seductive. You know? You have a house, there your wife can dress up however she want. But teach your daughters and wives to dress modestly.
When your wife is tired, it’s alright that you also must comfort her and maybe fix a little coffee or snacks for her. Trust her in everything that she does. But if she do something that you disagree with, talk about it in a tender voice. Shouting won’t make her calm, you will just make your wife a roaring lion.. hahah..
Husbands should honor their wives. It’s in the Bible, I Peter 3:7, 1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered “
Giving honor is to give merit. When they do things in the house, washed the dishes, washed plates or ironed your underwear or washing clothes and taking care of kids, yeah this households stuff. Give them merits, recognised when they changed the curtains or make you a coffee or baked you cookies.
Small things matters, because it is a way that you will not loose contact with your wife.
Honor means honesty, you must be honest In all things Wether finance or things you thought. Do not be afraid to speak out things. Do not be afraid also to accept the views of your wife because together, you will grow and learn from each other.
The definition of Honor:
integrity, honourableness, honesty, uprightness, ethics, morals, morality, principle, (high) principles, righteousness, rectitude, nobility, high-mindedness, right-mindedness, noble-mindedness;
And read again that verse of 1 Peter 3 : 7 that says ” being Heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered” that seems to me that one ways your prayers be answered is also to give honor ( honest, respect, kind, right minded, moral minded, )to your wife. You see, the blessings of the Lord are already established in us only if we work that they will bear good fruit.
It says that me as a wife and my husband is already a Heir or a successor or we will inherit the kingdom of God in heaven. We are noble or royal to the Lord. So if my husband helps me in my weaknesses, teach me so I can change my bad attitudes. It means that all our prayers will be fulfilled.. can you see the connections in being a good husband?
As a husband, you have a role to lead your wives to Lord. You must lead your family to the faith that teaches a good social and moral character. Make a day and spend time with your family. There are many things in the bible you can share and teach your family. I promise you, that the words of God is filled with empowerment and blessings and love and compassion. God’s portrait of Husband and Wife is a God’s character of relationships and good moral conduct.
When you have God with you, you will know how to treat and lead your family, and you will know how to be a good example even to your friends.
Husbands should provide for their families. It’s in the Bible, “And whoever does not provide for relatives, and especially for family members, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8 (NRSV)
Never neglect the needs of your family. Your wife has her needs, Wether physically or sexually you must give it to her. If your wife needs your help, help her in all you can without grudges or complaints, be willing to help for when you help her, you also are helping yourselves. Remember when you are married, you are OF ONE FLESH..
Provide the needs of your children or when relatives needs help, Wether yours or your wives, you also need to help, only if you can or in many ways that you can.
Husbands should not be dismayed because they are young.It’s in the Bible, “Let no one despise your youth, but set the believers an example in speech and conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.” 1 Timothy 4:12 (NRSV)
Not because you are a young man means you are to be quiet. Of course not. You must speak, but when you speak, make sure that your words are filled with kindness and compassion. That your words are not harming others. Share your good thoughts to your friends whom also are married for you will learn a lot and they also will learn how to live a Successful marriage Under God’s words and under the faith we all have through Jesus Christ..